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Tambay To Millionaire: The One Big Shift To Transformed Everything

It was during my fifth year of being a full-time 'tambay' and living a purposeless life that I hit rock bottom.

Ang routine ko that time was this:

❌ Gigising

❌ Mag social media

❌ Maghanap ng maaaya lumabas

❌ Either lalabas or mag-internet lang buong araw

❌ Kung lalabas, uuwi ng lasing

❌ Sleep

❌ Repeat

And since I already had my daughter at that time, my feeling of worthlessness magnified 10x.

Yung solo lang ako, bearable pa eh. Pero when I became a father, hindi ko na talaga kinaya yung kahihiyan sa sarili na sinabi ko na lang one day…

“𝘐’𝘮 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴.”

Napagod na ko na walang walang sense yung buhay ko.

Napagod na ko na wala akong ambag kahit kanino.

At napagod na ko mag-antay sa magliligtas sakin someday.

And that’s when I realized..

"𝗡𝗼 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘀𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳."

In just a few short years after that rock bottom situation, I went from being a full-time tambay to this:

✔️ I got good at being fit and healthy, & now living a more confident life

✔️ I became an entrepreneur, earned $$$, and helped people

✔️ I have two lovely kids whom I can enroll in a prestigious school and spoil

✔️ I can now dine at ANY restaurant without looking at the prices

✔️ I can buy expensive things and do cool stuff without stressing about money

✔️ I invest in expensive coaches and mentors to become more valuable to the people I serve

✔️ I have a business that brings me fulfillment, with team members I really like

✔️ I am now in a position where I can lead and influence others

And, most importantly, I now have a life where I feel proud, knowing for myself na may sense na sya..

And that feels so darn good. 🤗

But this journey wasn't easy—hindi naging madali kasi wala akong background for this kind of pursuit. Ang alam ko nga, wala sa DNA ko maging successful eh.

Yet, I was able to make it.

Kaya naniniwala ako na if akong tambay nga ng ilang taon eh nagawa 'to, mas lalo ka pa siguro..

But only if you take this simple (yet life-changing) advice to heart.

What advice? It's this:

𝗢𝗪𝗡 𝗜𝗧.

This is the one big shift that transformed everything for me.

Had I not internalized this, I might be stuck in the same (or worse) situation now — tambay pa rin at tumatanda lang ng paurong. 😥

So, if you're ready to learn what I did to make that 180-degree shift in my life...

LFG!

𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗢𝗪𝗘𝗥 𝗢𝗙 𝟭𝟬𝟬% 𝗢𝗪𝗡𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗣

Of the many success principles I've followed and got results from, I chose this one because I believe it's the most important.

And yet, this is where 99% of people get it wrong, including me.

Most of us, walang 100% ownership sa life natin, kaya naman:

👉 Pag na-late dahil traffic, kasalanan ng traffic

👉 Pag nag-fail sa isang bagay, kasalanan ng iba

👉 Pag nag-hirap sa pera, kasalanan ng government

👉 Pag nagloko ang jowa, kasalanan ng jowa

And so on.

Totoo naman nga eh, kasalanan nilang lahat. That's understandable.

But when I said "𝘰𝘸𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵", what I meant by that is really owning it.

It means taking 100% responsibility for your life.

𝗡𝗢 𝗘𝗫𝗖𝗘𝗣𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡.

Because think about it (let's use ‘success’ as an example):

💭 How can you achieve ‘success’ if you don't know what that means?

💭 And how can you know what ‘success’ means if you won't define it yourself?

💭 But how can you define ‘success’ if you don't believe that you are the one fully responsible for making it happen?

YOU SIMPLY CAN'T! Not without 100% ownership.

(Well, pwede mo siguro ma-define yung success even without full ownership, but your definition would be dependent on others' definition. In short, it won't be fully yours, and if it's not fully yours, then that's not success. 🤷‍♂️)

If you don't take 100% responsibility of your life, subconsciously, hindi ka mag all in sa sarili mo because deep inside, you know for yourself na wala naman sayo yung full control.

Ang manifestations nyan?

🥵 You blame others

🥵 You point fingers

🥵 You complain

🥵 You never learn because you don't admit mistakes

🥵 You're never open to feedback

🥵 You never become a team player

🥵 You exude entitlement behaviors

And without knowing it, you just wait for others or external factors to rescue you or improve your life (dahil nga wala naman sayo yung control).

At hindi nila magagawa yun because they also have their own shits they're dealing with.

𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗬𝗢𝗨'𝗟𝗟 𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥 𝗕𝗘 𝗪𝗔𝗜𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚.

In my view, this is the reason why many people are stuck and unhappy, kasi naalis sa kanila yung power to decide for their own life without them knowing.

I even saw someone posted this:

“𝘐𝘵’𝘴 2024 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦, 𝘵𝘪𝘨𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘯𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘢𝘨𝘴𝘢𝘣𝘪 𝘯𝘢 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘸𝘦 𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘦 𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨.”

I get that. Ganyan din ako dati.

It's almost like saying:

"𝘐𝘵'𝘴 2024 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦, 𝘵𝘪𝘨𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘯𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘢𝘨-𝘴𝘦𝘵 𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘭𝘪 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴. 𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪 𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘢𝘺𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭 𝘴𝘢 𝘣𝘶𝘩𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯. 𝘈𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘢 𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘢𝘺𝘰 𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘺𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘳𝘪."

And that's what I did... for a looooong time.

Nag-antay ako pero walang ngyari sa buhay ko ng ilang taon.

I realized, hangga't may ounce pa tayo ng paghopia na may ibang tao or external factors ang magliligtas sa atin, hindi tayo kikilos to find ways to fix our OWN life.

𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗦 𝗜𝗦 𝗪𝗛𝗬 𝗜𝗙 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗜𝗠𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗟𝗜𝗙𝗘, 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 𝗧𝗢 𝗢𝗪𝗡 𝗜𝗧 𝟭𝟬𝟬%.

Regardless of what's happening in your life now, despite the many things being thrown at you that seem ‘outside of your control,’ and even if you don't feel like it..

You have to adopt the mindset that 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.

🙋‍♀️ Na-late ka because of unexpected traffic? Sabihin mo kasalanan mo para the next day agahan mo na mag-prepare.

🙋‍♂️ Nag-fail yung business mo? Sabihin mo kasalanan mo para mag-isip ka what you could've done better.

🙋‍♀️ Paulit-ulit kang niloloko ng mga jowa mo? Sabihin mo kasalanan mo para mag-reflect ka sa tinotolerate mo sa relationships at magkaron ka ng realization about standards & self-respect.

🙋‍♂️ Hirap ka kumita ng pera? Sabihin mo kasalanan mo so you can ask yourself what skills you could be learning now dahil libre naman na lahat sa internet.

Basta kahit anong mangyari, ikaw ang may kasalanan.

In my Kaizen program, I call this '𝗥𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗶𝘁𝘆'.

Fancy word, but it just means that "𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘴, 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵."

Not because gusto ko mag-mukmok or mag self-pity, but because I want to affirm to myself that I am the one who caused this, so I am also the one who can fix it.

(Kung hindi mo kaya i-own fully, at least take some part in it)

The moment you shift to this perspective, you're back in control.

You've reclaimed your power.

And now, you have the mental space to think of solutions. 💥

And that's the first step I took from that rock bottom position.

𝗜 𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗣𝗣𝗘𝗗 𝗕𝗟𝗔𝗠𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗣𝗘𝗢𝗣𝗟𝗘 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗘𝗫𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗡𝗔𝗟 𝗖𝗜𝗥𝗖𝗨𝗠𝗦𝗧𝗔𝗡𝗖𝗘𝗦 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗧𝗢𝗢𝗞 𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗣𝗢𝗡𝗦𝗜𝗕𝗜𝗟𝗜𝗧𝗬 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗬𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗚.

Nag-start ako sa health and fitness (because it's the one I have full control over), then gradually extended it to my money, relationships, and happiness.

I changed my primary question/dialogue from:

"𝘉𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘵 𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘺𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘳𝘪 𝘴𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯 '𝘵𝘰?"

To..

"𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥'𝘷𝘦 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯?"

While it didn't solve all my problems (nadagdagan pa nga lalo kasi inown ko), what it gave me was certainty. A sense of control over my life.

And that's what gave me momentum.

Nagulat na lang ako na one day, ibang iba na yung buhay ko.

I no longer complain.

I no longer wait.

I no longer blame.

And best of all, I’m already making money on my own. 🙌

At pag may gusto ko, I take action and pursue it, knowing it's not my family, my friends, or the government that can save me.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘀𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

Having owned my life for a while, nagkaron ako ng personal belief na continuous kong pinapasa sa mga students ko at even sa mga anak ko, and will continue to do so until the day I die.

It's the belief that:

𝗪𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲. 𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝗱, 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻'𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀.

So own it completely, live authentically, and make every moment truly yours. 👊

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