𝟯 𝗕𝗜𝗚𝗚𝗘𝗦𝗧 𝗟𝗘𝗦𝗦𝗢𝗡𝗦
After asking the same question for weeks, I thought about the things that led me to this point and learned some important lessons.
And from these lessons, I found my answer.
While these lessons brought clarity to my recent business/life challenge, I realized they aren't just for me—they apply universally (even outside business).
So, I want to share them with you.
If you're someone who enjoys improving your life, business, money, relationships, fitness, and happiness, you'll find these lessons valuable.
Ignore them, and you might end up feeling frustrated, disappointed, and realizing you've been climbing the wrong ladder all along.
📍 𝗟𝗘𝗦𝗦𝗢𝗡 #𝟭: 𝗠𝗢𝗥𝗘 𝗜𝗦 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝗔𝗟𝗪𝗔𝗬𝗦 𝗕𝗘𝗧𝗧𝗘𝗥
One of humanity's fallacies is the belief that having more is automatically better. Kahit pa logically alam naman natin na hindi, our reaction is automatic. It's biological.
More means more resources, and more resources mean a better chance of survival.
That's why we aim (even unconsciously) for more goals, more achievements, more money, more love, a bigger company, etc.
But in reality, that's not entirely true. You can't just have more and more without also exaggerating the other side of it.
Yan yung tinatawag na '𝗱𝗶𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝘀'.
It's like when you're craving love and you get just enough of it, it feels good. But when you're overly showered by it... UMAY!
Similarly, in fitness, there's this thing called '𝗠𝗮𝘅𝗶𝗺𝘂𝗺 𝗥𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 (𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴) 𝗩𝗼𝗹𝘂𝗺𝗲' in which your body can handle just enough workout stress and past that, you start impeding your progress.
Heck, even sa mga simpleng bagay applicable 'to like sa pagkain (overeat), pag-inom ng gamot (overdose), at pag-tulog (oversleep).
**𝘛𝘳𝘺 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 16 𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘨𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥
And that's what I had experienced.
I sought for more thinking that it's just going to give me more of what I want, but what magnified (at my experience level) was the other side.
I even told my friend that I'm sure that if we get to our first billion, there will be a moment when we say, "𝘯𝘢𝘬𝘢𝘬𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘭𝘢 𝘺𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘢𝘬𝘵𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘢 𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘨".
Sabi nga nila, sa lahat ng bagay, "𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘢 𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘣𝘳𝘢", and I'm inclined to believe that it's truer than I initially thought.
📍 𝗟𝗘𝗦𝗦𝗢𝗡 #𝟮: 𝗠𝗢𝗥𝗘 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗦𝗢𝗠𝗘𝗧𝗜𝗠𝗘𝗦 𝗕𝗘 𝗕𝗘𝗧𝗧𝗘𝗥, 𝗕𝗨𝗧 𝗔𝗡𝗧𝗜𝗖𝗜𝗣𝗔𝗧𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗜𝗧 𝗠𝗜𝗚𝗛𝗧 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝗕𝗘 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗘𝗫𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗧
In life, and in our innate pursuit of wanting more, we often compare situations to simply tossing a coin, expecting just two outcomes.
It's either A will happen, or B will happen, and we aim to prepare for both.
But in reality, it's more complicated than that; our desires can lead to many different things, not just two. Na kahit nag-prepare naman tayo for many possibilities, life still surprises us with another.
Imagine a coin with thousands of sides— that's how complex life is.
So for me, it's safe to say that:
𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲 ≠ 𝗕𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿
𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲 = 𝗨𝗻𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱
**𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 '𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦' 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴 & 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘴.
The amazing thing about us high achievers is that we are 'too optimistic' about everything.
Syempre, trained tayo to look for the 'good' because we're taught to consistently find our wins in our days, weeks, and months...
...to the point that it becomes our only lens, na ang nakikita na lang natin are the 'positives' and nothing else.
This is called '𝗕𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗗𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲', and it's both a strength and a weakness for high achievers.
While optimism is powerful, blind desire can be dangerous as it often results in decisions with unforeseen negative outcomes.
And that's precisely what happened to me recently.
I just kept aiming for 'more', and although I had an idea of what I was getting into and the possible consequences of my decisions...
...the things that happened were way beyond my expectations—things that were outside my realm of preferences and aspirations.
Dito ko na-remind that life is more complex than just two sides of a coin or six sides of a dice.
It's far beyond that.
📍 𝗟𝗘𝗦𝗦𝗢𝗡 #𝟯: 𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗗𝗘𝗦𝗜𝗥𝗘𝗦 𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗘 𝗔𝗧 𝗔 𝗣𝗥𝗜𝗖𝗘
And if you're not ready for it, it can truly shake you to the core.
Think about it..
When was the last time you desired for something 'more' or 'better'?
Kanina? Kahapon? 6 months ago? Last year?
And when you had this desire, did it demand more from you? Like..
✔️ More time?
✔️ More effort?
✔️ More money?
✔️ More resources?
✔️ More knowledge?
✔️ More skills?
✔️ More responsibilities?
✔️ Better mindset?
Yes, of course.
𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲; 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝘁 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝘀𝘁.
The bigger they are, the higher the pay.
This is why you cannot achieve a level 10 in health, wealth, or relationships with a level 1 mindset, habits, and skills.
You have to PAY by upgrading yourself.
Sabi nga sa famous quote:
"𝘚𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯𝘦𝘥, 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘶𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘥𝘢𝘺."
But here's the tricky part.
When paying for the cost of your desire, you're not just paying for the desire itself. Instead, you're paying extra for:
❌ the other sides of your desire that you're aware of but don't want
❌ the other sides of your desire that you're not aware of and that you may not want
✖️ the cost of dealing with things you didn't know were part of your desire that you may not want
✖️ the cost of not knowing the other sides of your desire
Yung mga ayaw mo at hindi mo inexpect, ayan yung may pinaka-malaking bayad.
Imagine your desire as something sold to you by a budol salesman for a 𝗼𝗻𝗲-𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘆𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗳 ₱𝟵𝟵𝟵...
...only to discover numerous additional charges of ₱𝟵𝟵,𝟬𝟬𝟬...
... 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆. 𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗹𝗲. 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸. 😭
Sucks, right?
Welcome to life. And congratulations for 'budol-ed' by the Universe itself. 🤪
And this is what I experienced recently.
Nakalimutan ko na yung pag pursue ng vision ko will place progressively greater demands on me.
Akala ko when I reach a certain level, kokonti na yung challenges, hindi pala.
I got reminded that life/business is not really problem-solving; it's problem-replacing.
Sabi nga sa pinanood ko na movie a couple of days ago, 'Equalizer':
"𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘶𝘥, 𝘵𝘰𝘰."