𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝟯 𝗣𝗜𝗟𝗟𝗔𝗥𝗦 𝗢𝗙 𝗣𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗢𝗡𝗔𝗟 𝗦𝗨𝗖𝗖𝗘𝗦𝗦

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Yung pag come up sa own definition ng success, I thought of these 3 pillars:

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✅ 𝗩𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗿 𝗣𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲 (𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺 𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗴𝗮𝗺𝗲)

✅ 𝗚𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 (𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻)

✅ 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 (𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝘆)

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Madami pang ibang tawag at connected dito like 𝘐𝘬𝘪𝘨𝘢𝘪, 𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘔𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘊𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘔𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘛𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦 (𝘔𝘛𝘗), 𝘉𝘏𝘈𝘎, 𝘊𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘝𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘴, etc.

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For the sake of simplicity, I narrowed them down to 3. 🤟

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I don't have a specific order in following these as I believe this process is like peeling an onion—you learn more as you go along.

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Also, these 3 feed off each other.

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Like for example, wala ka pang '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯/𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦', pero meron ka ng '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴'.

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The '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴' you pursue can give you an idea ano ba yung '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯/𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦' mo..

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Which in turn reveal the '𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴' behind your actions.

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Conversely, having clear '𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴' helps you reflect on and clarify your '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯' and '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴' even further.

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So, by focusing on these three things (in any order), I believe you can work towards your own definition of success.

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𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗕𝗜𝗚𝗚𝗘𝗦𝗧 𝗗𝗢𝗠𝗜𝗡𝗢

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I mentioned na wala namang specific order yung pag define ng mga 'to, but of the three, I think ang biggest domino among them is this one:

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𝗩𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻/𝗣𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲.

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This is your ultimate aspiration.

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It's answering the question:

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“𝘐𝘧 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥, 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘥𝘰?”

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Or simply:

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"𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘐 𝘙𝘌𝘈𝘓𝘓𝘠 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵?"

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Because this sets the theme of your life; the overarching goal of your existence.

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And it sets your life playground.

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Because if you know what game you're playing, you can win.

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𝗔𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗹𝗹, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗴𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳.

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Also, it would be a challenge to define the next goals, skills, habits, and character traits you need to work on if you don't know what game you're in.

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Like an athlete, hindi ka naman magpa-practice ng dribbling at shooting kung hindi mo alam na basketball pala ang sports mo, right?

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But of course, defining your '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯/𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦' is not as easy as it sounds. Sometimes, it can even take your whole life to discover it.

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Kaya nga sya 'life purpose'.

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Madalas nga, mauuna mo pa malaman yung mga '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴' at '𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴' mo before you realize this, and that's fine.

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Like ako, naging goal ko muna magkaron ng abs because I was so insecure back then, bago ko ma-realize na gusto ko tulungan yung mga tao sa fitness.

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So if you’re having trouble finding an answer, worry not.

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Asking "𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦?" is already a big step.

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Pag nagreflect ka sa question na yan, daily, weekly, and monthly, you're already way ahead.

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Because, sadly, many people reach the end of their lives without ever pondering it.

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𝗘𝗫𝗔𝗠𝗣𝗟𝗘𝗦 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗗𝗥𝗔𝗪 𝗜𝗗𝗘𝗔𝗦 𝗙𝗥𝗢𝗠

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Finding your '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯/𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦,' '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴,' and '𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴' is beyond the scope of this post. However, to provide you with an idea, here are some examples from me and others I know who have one:

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🙋‍♂️ Mine is to make personal development a big part of Filipinos' lives, starting with fitness – aiming for an initial 100k transformations.

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🎯 So the goals I will set will be related to this. Like getting my dream body first, then creating a program to help people, and so on.

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❓ My reason? Because I was so insecure back then and fitness was my catalyst for change. Gusto ko patunayan sa mga tao na hindi "mababaw" ang fitness.

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🙎‍♂️ Si John R Pagulayan, it's to "𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘺, 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘤𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘴, 𝘭𝘢𝘸𝘺𝘦𝘳𝘴, 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘳𝘴..."

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🎯 So the goals he will set will be related to this. Like learning freelancing himself first, then teaching it to others, and so on.

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❓ Reason nya? Naalala ko kinwento nya sakin na minaliit ng kakilala nya yung freelancing and that became his initial motivation for creating his vision.

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👩‍🦰 Si Nikki Jurado (NFG), it’s to help people solve their financial issues so they can ask themselves the more important question: "𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵'𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵?" (hint: so they can now think about their 𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯/𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦).

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🎯 So the goals she will set will be related to this. Like getting wealthy, traveling the world, then helping others do the same, and so on.

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❓ Reason nya? Not sure exactly, but she insanely values freedom and I believe it's related to it.

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Now, if you notice the themes here..

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The '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯' is playing the long or even the infinite game.

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“…like a guiding star on the horizon—forever pursued but never reached.”

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'Di naman sure kung maaachieve namin lahat yan eh? And that's the point.

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They're just themes of our lives, our playgrounds.

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The next commonality among those examples is that all those answers emerged from our own curiosities, life experiences, values, strengths, environment, and even upbringing.

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They're from our OWN uniqueness.

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Lastly, they involve helping others—a pursuit bigger than ourselves. 🌏

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Once you have a clear idea of what you truly want in life...

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You'll experience a unique sense of freedom, a kind of relief unlike any other.

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Magugulat ka na lang that you compare yourself less to others' success because you recognize that you have your own definition.

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And that you can always win, kahit anong area pa yan. 🥳

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𝗢𝗡𝗘 𝗜𝗠𝗣𝗢𝗥𝗧𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗙𝗜𝗡𝗔𝗟 𝗡𝗢𝗧𝗘

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The sooner you discover your ‘𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯/𝘗𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦’, the better, dahil baka chase ka ng chase ng goals only to find out that you've been climbing the wrong ladder all along.

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But if you can't figure that out yet, it's okay. Start ka sa '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴' or '𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴' muna by asking these questions:

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"𝘈𝘯𝘰 𝘺𝘶𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘰 𝘬𝘰 𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵?"

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"𝘉𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘵 𝘬𝘰 𝘨𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘶𝘯?"

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But more important than those two questions, it's asking this one:

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"𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙚?"

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Come to think of it, sayo ba talaga mga yan?

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Hindi ba sila galing sa parents mo? Friends mo? Family mo?

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Or baka naman ayan yung ‘common’ na nakikita mo kaya akala mo ayan na rin yung tama for you?

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Remember, while seeking advice and insights from others is helpful, your '𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯', '𝘎𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴',, and '𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴' should ultimately reflect your OWN beliefs and aspirations.

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They have to come from you. 🫵

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To end this post..

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Share ko lang yung quote sa Lesson 7 ng 𝗞𝗮𝗶𝘇𝗲𝗻 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺 na tingin ko makakatulong sa pag-iisip mo, like how it helped many of us.

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It’s a quote that encapsulates everything in this post in a single sentence.

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It's a quote that embodies my concept of 'personal power' and 'personal success’.

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And it's a quote that I can live my life by.

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Here's the quote:

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𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣'𝙩 𝙙𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩'𝙨 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪, 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙚, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢.

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And for me..

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That is the ultimate failure.